Learning To Say “No”

Hello everyone! Welcome back to my blog.

January is almost over and I have already learned so much. In the last few weeks, I’ve learned to say “No” and not feel bad about it. Is that a bad thing? Absolutely not.

I don’t know how you guys feel, but learning to say “No” has been so freeing for me. Not only am I saying “No” but I am learning that I do not have to follow up with any kind of explanation at all. And it feel so good because I don’t owe and explanation about any of my decisions to anyone as long as I am okay with it.

I have always been the type of person that would do my all to help the next person out. I would burn myself out trying to always make others happy. That drove me to always putting others before myself and before my needs. I’m not saying that I am no longer helping others, I am just no longer going out my way to be there and do thing for people that wouldn’t do the same for me.

Some people have a way of making you feel bad for not doing something for them, when they want you to. And I no longer want that type of negativity in my life. So I’ve learned to say “No”, give no explanation and keep it moving.

Until next time…stay positive!

-Toya

33 responses to “Learning To Say “No””

  1. This post could not have come at a better time for me. I’ve also been trying to say no and not feel bad about it. It’s definitely so freeing!

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    1. That’s my thing, I always feel bad. But I’m learning that I don’t have to feel bad at all.

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  2. Yes, it’s so important to stick up for yourself and when you don’t agree with something or something doesn’t feel right to you, you need to say no.

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    1. I definitely agree with that!

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  3. I love that quote about how “no” is a complete sentence. I always feel obligated to provide reasons why I can’t or won’t do something, but you’ve given me a great reminder that I don’t always have to!

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    1. I can relate to that. I’ve learned to say “no” and just leave it at that.

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  4. Powerful reminder here. Thanks for sharing!

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    1. Thank you for reading!

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  5. I love this! Explaining yourself and trying to follow up is a stressor by it’s self. Saying “no” eliminates all of that :)!

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    1. You are absolutely right!

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  6. Hi Latoya, I’m also working on saying No with no explanation. Nice post

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    1. Hi Adrienne. Thanks for reading!

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  7. I’m a big fan of the word “no.” No explanation, and no repeating myself. It keeps my blood pressure low lol.

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    1. I like the way you think. Lol. Definitely keeps the blood pressure down.

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      1. Lol I said low like that was good 🤦🏾‍♀️.

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  8. “No” is absolutely a complete sentence and you should not feel bad for saying it without explanation! It is hard to say no but since I almost lost my marriage due to me working 60 + hours a week I have learned to say it more often. Healthcare work can suck you in sometimes.

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  9. Great thoughts…thanks for sharing!

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  10. Saying “no” is definite tough. I do always find myself explaining why and I really shouldn’t, I have a right to my privacy. Good read

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    1. That is so true. We do have a right to our privacy and shouldn’t feel as if we need to explain anything. Thanks for reading!

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  11. Awesome post! Shared with my facebook audience

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    1. I’m glad you enjoyed it! Thank you so much for reading and sharing!!

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      1. I realy did enjoy it. I had to learn how to say no in my forties & people feel as if you are being selfish, but it must be said.

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        1. You are so right! I try to be there for people in any way that I can but sometimes people will take advantage. So I started saying no.

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          1. The best thing for you!

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  12. Beautiful write up. I have also been the way you described and I’ve also realized that sometimes it is wiser to say no, especially if the thing you are being asked to do as a favor is not compatible with your future or will negatively impact you and your health. Unfortunately, there is a limit to how we as humans can help. It is only God that has the capacity to help infinitely without being burn out and damaged.

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    1. You are absolutely right! We as humans can only do so much. Thank you for reading.

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  13. Hi !! I am a relatively new blogger. Just read this post and had to thank you . I really needed it at this point in time. Have been trying so hard for years to keep everyone happy , at the end it seems all in vain as all i got was more expectations. Wish I learnt to say No in the right time , it would have saved a lot of anguish. Meanwhile its never too late!! Thank you again ..

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  14. UUUHHH. This is so true. I think I just told my younger brother “no” for the first time and now “the devil has showed his head”.

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    1. Sadly, that’s usually how it goes. But it’s nothing wrong with saying no and standing by it. Thanks for stopping by!

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